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I have my own mentors and coaches; people I look up to and gain knowledge from, in order to improve my health, my business, my life. This is an excerpt from an email I received that talks about desire and how badly you really want what you say you want. I've edited it down and modified it slightly for you. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts. |
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Assuming you have a desire for success that is greater than your desire for distractions or for the time-robbers, then focus becomes easy. Here’s a rule in life: The thing you desire most is the thing that is easiest for you to attain. Yes, yes, I know you think there might be a dichotomy between what you desire and what you do, meaning that you believe you desire to lose weight MORE than you desire that cookie . . . but if you eat that cookie, it proves that RIGHT NOW your desire for the taste of the cookie is greater than your desire to lose weight. In order to lose weight, your overall desire for weight loss MUST be greater than your desire for cookies. In life, desire wins. Here’s an example: You are invited to a private VIP party with your favourite celebrity and your desire to meet - and interact with - this favourite celebrity is high. The condition is that you arrive at the party at 6 PM sharp. It is 5:55 right now. There is a 5 minute walk from your car to the party. If someone presented you with a cookie that would consume 5 minutes of your time, would you take the cookie? Why not? Because your desire to meet the celebrity was greater than your desire for the cookie! Now, if you TOLD me you desired to meet the celebrity, but you took the cookie and showed up late and were locked out, what is it very obvious you desired more? The cookie or the party? Your fitness is just like that. You can’t use the excuse, I was distracted, and still tell me your desire for success is greater than your desire to satisfy and mollify all distractions. Your desire for momentary peace by taking the cookie is greater than your desire to lose weight. Still think I am wrong? Consider a drug addict. Tonight his friend comes over and says, “Want to smoke a joint?” He misses the job hunt tomorrow. Your response to him tonight? Do you still buy his story that he wants to get his life right, or do you tell your partner, I told you he wasn’t ready to change? It’s the same way with your health. If you don’t make the changes in your life that are necessary for success, your partner probably won’t buy your story that you really want success. Neither do I. If you are finding distractions for more than 30 minutes a day and not getting the results you want in your fitness, then those distractions are more important than fitness results to you. Hands down. What you spend your time on is your expressed desire. So what is your choice, more distractions, or take control of your health? It is easy to focus on things I like. If you are struggling with focus, I challenge you that your real problem is desire. You don’t desire your health enough. You may tell me, yes I do, but if you aren’t focused on it, then you don’t. Is your desire for success MORE than your desire for the nagging feeling in your stomach when your email is closed for one hour? (By the way, did you know that nagging feeling in your stomach is dopamine withdrawal, because every time you open an email your brain gives you a dopamine hit? Compulsively checking email is just like compulsively drinking alcohol, compulsively checking locks, or compulsively doing anything else. Would you allow yourself a drink every 5 minutes if it meant you would get so drunk you cannot work? Then why would you allow yourself to check email every 5 minutes when it means you are so unfocused you cannot work?) At this point, the choice is yours. When you desire your health more than you desire your addicting distracted behaviour, success will find you. |
